Good communication with your child is not about what you say, it is about how you feel. When your buttons are pushed the electricity of intense negative emotions won’t let you think clearly. You end up with your habitual yelling at the child. In addition to existing negativity you feel guilty and ashamed. Even if you constantly guard those buttons from being pushed you still experience the stress of being always alert and tense. It is like a game where you, sooner or later, become exhausted and lose. But don’t give up your hopes. There is a way to solve this problem.